If you are wondering what skills to get a boyfriend you need to have,
the first thing you need to do is consider what you want a boyfriend
for. No, this isn't a stupid question. The way you go about finding a
guy might depend on what you are looking for in a relationship.
Frankly, you will do things differently if you are looking for Mr. Right
than you might if you were just looking for Mr. Right Now. While I
don't recommend lowering your standards ever, you may not worry too much
if you're just looking for someone to hang out with rather than a
potential long term partner.
For this article, I'm going to
assume that you're looking for someone that may turn into a someone
special. The advice I'm about to give you is going on that assumption.
It's not that these tips can't work for a more casual boyfriend, they
can and do, it's just that you shouldn't use anything less than these
tactics if you want your relationship to go the distance.
Here you go:
1.
For the love of all that's good, be yourself. We all know that when we
first meet someone we put our best foot forward, and that's ok. What
you absolutely don't want to do is put on a false front. It's one thing
to remember to always say please and thank you and not burp in front of
Mr. Who Knows when you first meet him, but it's something else
entirely to completely change the way you act.
For example, when
you first meet someone don't say you like to bowl if you don't. Don't
say you like martial arts movies if you don't. And don't say you hate
going to museums if you really love to go. The point is that you'll
never let him get to know the real you if you aren't acting like the
real you. Be yourself.
2. Don't go overboard with the
compliments. If you think he has a great smile than tell him that but
don't hang on his every word like you just met Johnny Depp. It's one
thing to be attentive it's quite another to be a cling on. Be sincere
in your praise and don't overdo it.
3. Don't just sit around
letting him do all the talking. For one thing, if the guy is happy
spending the whole night talking about himself he may be too self
absorbed to ever be a good match for you. If he doesn't like to do all
the talking he'll get bored if you don't contribute to the conversation.
Learn how to give and take in a conversation so that you can each get
to know the other.
The truth is there aren't really special
skills to get a boyfriend. If you want a relationship built on
attraction, mutual interests, and trust (which is the best way to make
sure it will last) than just follow the hints I've given you and you'll
be just fine. Enjoy!
Tuesday
Write Your Own Love Letter in 6 Easy Steps
You want to write a love letter to the special person in your life to
tell them how you feel about them but how do you put it into words? And
where do you start? If that sounds like you then you'll find this
article very useful in helping you to express exactly what you want to
say.
Keywords:
dating, relationships, romance, love letter, love letters, love advice, love tips, romantic, love life, dating advice, lost love
Article Body:
You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us? Do you struggle to find the words to properly convey how you feel? Or is it that you just can’t explain it? Don’t let words get in the way of telling your loved one how much they mean to you.
Everyone wants to be loved. When you are busy living life, there never seems time to slow down and really savour that central relationship that makes it all worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those closest to us know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to us. But the sad reality is that often they don’t.
So how can you write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and one that your loved one will cherish for all time? Where do you start? Follow these easy tips below and you’ll be on your way in no time.
1. First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as specific as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel included, especially at parties.
2. Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love them and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.
3. Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and weave them into your letter. You could start by saying ‘I love how you…’ and then include the three examples from the first point. Then you could say something like ‘I loved the way you…’ and then mention the other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in your life.
4. It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before going back for a final edit and polish.
5. Buy some special paper and write out your letter. Don’t worry if your handwriting isn’t perfect – it’s distinctly yours and your loved one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter. If you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting is something you’ve argued about before then pay to get it hand written by a professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort. The more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will treasure it.
6. Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will you slip it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow? Do you want to be there when they open it? If you want to see their reaction, then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the letter up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift doesn’t diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.
If a birthday or anniversary or other special occasion is involved you’ll want to include mention of that too.
Keywords:
dating, relationships, romance, love letter, love letters, love advice, love tips, romantic, love life, dating advice, lost love
Article Body:
You want to tell your partner how you feel about them but you end up staring at a blank screen for so long you give up. Or you try a few lines only to delete them all and start over. Again. Why is it so hard to tell the loved one in our life exactly what they mean to us? Do you struggle to find the words to properly convey how you feel? Or is it that you just can’t explain it? Don’t let words get in the way of telling your loved one how much they mean to you.
Everyone wants to be loved. When you are busy living life, there never seems time to slow down and really savour that central relationship that makes it all worthwhile. Oftentimes we think that those closest to us know exactly how we feel about them and how important they are to us. But the sad reality is that often they don’t.
So how can you write a love letter that you will feel proud to give and one that your loved one will cherish for all time? Where do you start? Follow these easy tips below and you’ll be on your way in no time.
1. First write down 5 things that you love about your partner and be as specific as possible. Rather than writing that they are kind, instead be detailed about how they are kind. Perhaps they always smile at waiters in restaurants or they are great at making people feel included, especially at parties.
2. Write down 5 things that they have done that confirms how much you love them and again, give examples. Perhaps they enveloped you in a hug last night when you were feeling frustrated about your family. Or maybe they knew how disappointed you were when you missed out on that promotion and they cooked a special meal to cheer you up.
3. Pick the best three examples from each of the above categories and weave them into your letter. You could start by saying ‘I love how you…’ and then include the three examples from the first point. Then you could say something like ‘I loved the way you…’ and then mention the other examples. Make sure you emphasise how their actions made you feel, how loved you felt and how grateful you are to have them in your life.
4. It is best to write up a draft first and then go over it to see if you can improve it. Sometimes it helps to write up what you want to say, edit it until it flows well and then leave it for a day or two before going back for a final edit and polish.
5. Buy some special paper and write out your letter. Don’t worry if your handwriting isn’t perfect – it’s distinctly yours and your loved one will appreciate the time and effort you put into the letter. If you feel your writing is so bad it will be difficult to read or if your illegible handwriting is something you’ve argued about before then pay to get it hand written by a professional. At a stretch you could use a more romantic font on your computer, say Garamond in italic, but you should really only do that as a last resort. The more personal you can make your letter the more your loved one will treasure it.
6. Think about how you plan on delivering this letter to them. Will you slip it in their briefcase? Mail it? Leave it under the pillow? Do you want to be there when they open it? If you want to see their reaction, then it is best to hand it to them. You could team the letter up with a small gift like flowers or chocolate but make sure the gift doesn’t diminish the letter as you want that to be the main focus.
If a birthday or anniversary or other special occasion is involved you’ll want to include mention of that too.
Kidnapping: Former SSS director calls for establishment of state police
Former State Security Service, SSS, director, Dennis Amachree has
thrown his weight behind those canvassing for state police advising that
it should be extended to the local government. In a chat with Daily
Sun, he posited that state police is the only solution to criminalities
and incessant crisis at the grassroots level.
According to him, state police will not usurp the Nigeria Police, as many perceive. He also pointed out that when formed, law would be promulgated to check their excesses.
There has been diverse opinion over the proposed establishment of a state police. Which side do you belong?
Right from1999, I have been talking about state police in Nigeria. We even went ahead from our own professional association known as the Nigerian Private Security Association, presented a bill to the senate. It went through to the first reading but during the second reading it was killed by a senator who was a former Inspector General of Police. Then nobody took us seriously and I can tell you that just like GSM, whether Nigeria likes it or not we will have state police.
LASTMA is Lagos state police, if you like call it any other name. Rivers state has the same kind of arrangement. The origin of state police started in California where people volunteered to help check traffic. They also discovered that there were criminals moving inside the cars. They formed a security arrangement that started pursing criminals in cars and at the end of the day, they arrested some of them and the state gave them power of prosecution.
Those criminals were prosecuted and jailed and from that day, other states gradually started having their own state police. They usually start from traffic control and at the end of the day they control crime. There is no clash, they know their jurisdiction and stick to it. The former IGP who killed this bill was scared that state police will come and usurp their own responsibilities but that is not true.
What is happening is that when you have state police, it will enforce state laws not federal laws. Federal laws will be enforced by the federal police and vice versa. Local government laws will be enforced by local government police. In America, the local government police are called Sheriff. The university that I graduated from has its own police. They enforce the university laws; they don’t deal with federal laws like murder. The main argument is that state police would be used by incumbent governors to oppress the opposition? Some have argued that governors would use state police to oppress the opposition parties.
The fact remains that before state police can be established in any state, the national assembly will promulgate the laws that would govern them. They will give the guidelines. It is only when you call them police legally that they can be given arms to enforce laws.
It is also necessary for the local government police and even the university police to carry arms because there are very violent people.
Who is to ensure that these laws are enforced?
We have beautiful laws but the problem we have is in the area of enforcement. The state police will be controlled by the laws of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
They will enforce the status given by the state house of Assembly. The president will not control the Federal police because if he commits a crime, the federal police will arrest. Just like the SSS, the only bodies the President can control are the armed forces because he is their commander in chief. The Nigerian security services, all of them are allegiance to the constitution of the Federal republic of Nigeria, so nobody manipulates them. It’s the National Assembly that will promulgate a bill and pass it. All the president has to do is to sign it into law. Federal government has decided to dialogue with the sect called Boko Haram.
Do you think that move will bring an end to the reign of terror?
I don’t believe that we should dialogue with terrorists because if you start you are simply offending families of people that they killed their members innocently. It’s too bad that the presidency has chosen to dialogue with a terrorist group. What we expect them to do is to have a national dialogue. People have been calling for sovereign national conference, why can’t we go in for that. It was the mistake they did with the Niger Delta. The Niger Delta became peaceful and then you have Boko Haram in the North. When you solve the problem with Boko Haram then another one will spring out from the west.
There are so many things to be addressed in the country, why not go ahead and have a national conference, everyone will be there. And government will decide whether they want to solve this problem or go back to ground zero. Nigeria is a very large country where for all the 250 tribal units; you don’t expect it to have a smooth sail. Is there any hope that kidnapping can be curtailed? The focus on this is that urban terrorism, including kidnapping are not crimes that the security agencies can wipe out, just like that.
Even in America, it is hard to wipe it out. In Nigeria, the advice will be for the security agencies to review and up their game. The ability of the agencies to keep the kidnappers scared of being caught will reduce the number of incidents. It is when they know that, they will not be caught and even when they are caught, there will be no prosecution, then they act in impunity.
According to him, state police will not usurp the Nigeria Police, as many perceive. He also pointed out that when formed, law would be promulgated to check their excesses.
There has been diverse opinion over the proposed establishment of a state police. Which side do you belong?
Right from1999, I have been talking about state police in Nigeria. We even went ahead from our own professional association known as the Nigerian Private Security Association, presented a bill to the senate. It went through to the first reading but during the second reading it was killed by a senator who was a former Inspector General of Police. Then nobody took us seriously and I can tell you that just like GSM, whether Nigeria likes it or not we will have state police.
LASTMA is Lagos state police, if you like call it any other name. Rivers state has the same kind of arrangement. The origin of state police started in California where people volunteered to help check traffic. They also discovered that there were criminals moving inside the cars. They formed a security arrangement that started pursing criminals in cars and at the end of the day, they arrested some of them and the state gave them power of prosecution.
Those criminals were prosecuted and jailed and from that day, other states gradually started having their own state police. They usually start from traffic control and at the end of the day they control crime. There is no clash, they know their jurisdiction and stick to it. The former IGP who killed this bill was scared that state police will come and usurp their own responsibilities but that is not true.
What is happening is that when you have state police, it will enforce state laws not federal laws. Federal laws will be enforced by the federal police and vice versa. Local government laws will be enforced by local government police. In America, the local government police are called Sheriff. The university that I graduated from has its own police. They enforce the university laws; they don’t deal with federal laws like murder. The main argument is that state police would be used by incumbent governors to oppress the opposition? Some have argued that governors would use state police to oppress the opposition parties.
The fact remains that before state police can be established in any state, the national assembly will promulgate the laws that would govern them. They will give the guidelines. It is only when you call them police legally that they can be given arms to enforce laws.
It is also necessary for the local government police and even the university police to carry arms because there are very violent people.
Who is to ensure that these laws are enforced?
We have beautiful laws but the problem we have is in the area of enforcement. The state police will be controlled by the laws of the Federal Republic of Nigeria.
They will enforce the status given by the state house of Assembly. The president will not control the Federal police because if he commits a crime, the federal police will arrest. Just like the SSS, the only bodies the President can control are the armed forces because he is their commander in chief. The Nigerian security services, all of them are allegiance to the constitution of the Federal republic of Nigeria, so nobody manipulates them. It’s the National Assembly that will promulgate a bill and pass it. All the president has to do is to sign it into law. Federal government has decided to dialogue with the sect called Boko Haram.
Do you think that move will bring an end to the reign of terror?
I don’t believe that we should dialogue with terrorists because if you start you are simply offending families of people that they killed their members innocently. It’s too bad that the presidency has chosen to dialogue with a terrorist group. What we expect them to do is to have a national dialogue. People have been calling for sovereign national conference, why can’t we go in for that. It was the mistake they did with the Niger Delta. The Niger Delta became peaceful and then you have Boko Haram in the North. When you solve the problem with Boko Haram then another one will spring out from the west.
There are so many things to be addressed in the country, why not go ahead and have a national conference, everyone will be there. And government will decide whether they want to solve this problem or go back to ground zero. Nigeria is a very large country where for all the 250 tribal units; you don’t expect it to have a smooth sail. Is there any hope that kidnapping can be curtailed? The focus on this is that urban terrorism, including kidnapping are not crimes that the security agencies can wipe out, just like that.
Even in America, it is hard to wipe it out. In Nigeria, the advice will be for the security agencies to review and up their game. The ability of the agencies to keep the kidnappers scared of being caught will reduce the number of incidents. It is when they know that, they will not be caught and even when they are caught, there will be no prosecution, then they act in impunity.
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